The First Major Step in the Process of Finding your Birth Parents

The first major step in finding your birth parents after you have thoroughly reviewed your replacement birth certificate is to find out exactly what state you were born in. This may sound silly since you just reviewed your replacement birth certificate, but depending upon where you were actually adopted and it was in another state, your replacement birth certificate would be from your new state. You have to ask your adoptive parents what state you were actually born in. They may ask you why you want to know. The simple answer is, because you're curious or you want to know what sports team to root for. Something simple and believable. There are some adoptive parents that are extremely fearful that you will find your biological parents and love them more because of the blood relationship. In my book, "Adoptee-A Childhood of Torment", one of my cousins was adopted just like I was and her adoptive parents swore not to ever tell her. When she was 21, she found out she was adopted and never spoke to her adoptive parents again, or even attended their funerals. This is why parents are sometimes reluctant to tell the truth when confronted with this situation. Hopefully, your adoptive parents will understand that it is a basic need of an adopted child to know the truth. Once you find out for certain where you were born, you need to call the Dept. of Vital Statistics in your birth state and check to see if they are an open state, closed state or a registry state. If your birth state is an open state, then your search will become a thousand percent easier than if it were a closed state or a registry state. Let's hope all who read this were born in open states. What is the difference between an open state, a closed state or a registry state? Come back to this blog to find out.